The mind-body and holistic medicine books are filled with them. Those miracle cures. The overnight healings.
The epiphanies, the transcendent moments, the near death experiences, the realisations, the mental state changes, the miracles, the one vitamin/supplement/thing that completely heals someone in a short space of time.
These stories are amazing. Inspirational. Beautiful.
But sometimes I think these stories do more harm than good, and make the rest of us feel like we’re doing something wrong or failing.
I was listening to a few lectures the other day on mind-body medicine. One lady told the story of how she had this epiphany, changed her mental attitude, and within 10 days ALL her autoimmune symptoms went away.
Then I listened to this other guy talk about all his symptoms completely going away in 5 days when he got all positive and did affirmations.
I felt partly inspired, and partly like the biggest failure on the planet. I’ve been working on this stuff for about 4 years now!
Slowly chipping away. Showing up everyday and doing more meditating, more journalling, more exploring, more EFT, more belief work, more reprogramming.
And don’t get me wrong. I’m a completely different person now than I was 4 years ago.
I went from negative, pessimistic, angry, sarcastic and hopeless. To happy, sunshine, optimistic, reasonable, calm and peaceful.
And that change is reflected in my body and my health too.
But I worked damn hard for that – for FOUR YEARS.
It didn’t happen overnight.
Those miracle stories do more harm than good.
I’ve seen them leave my clients feel hopeless, disappointed and frustrated.
I’ve felt the pain and frustration after listening to some guru talk about changing your mindset and thinking positive and trying it out for a few weeks, only to be left MORE hopeless than before, because now I’m a “failure” at that too.
I can’t even think positive right.
Those stories that we hear about, are the EXCEPTION.
And I’m no exception.
I worked hard for this.
And hearing these stories is hard. Because it makes me feel like a failure. Like theres something wrong with me. Why aren’t I that special? What’s wrong with me?
But what I also believe, down to my bones – the more we struggle, the higher we rise.
The higher the climb up the mountain, the sweeter it is when we get there.
I want to get to the top of the mountain and have a story to tell.
So I show up every day.
And I chip away.
A little bit more. Every single day.
I haven’t healed overnight.
Maybe that special privilege is held for would-be Hay House authors.
But I’ll be over here.
Doing the REAL healing work that needs to be done for the non-exceptions.
So if you’re like me – not one of these special exceptions.
Here’s my message to you: just keep chipping away, every day.
Healing is a process.
Sometimes a short, seemingly miraculous process that you read about in every single holistic health book out there.
Sometimes a long, drawn out, slow and steady process that you work hard on for years.
My experience is that most real healing happens in the long one, but the loudest, most exciting stories are the short ones. And they drown the rest of us out.
Because everyone wants to heal in 5 or 10 days. Hey, I want that too. I prayed for that too.
But I’m not an exception. And I’m totally cool with that.